A marriage should be regarded as something deserving the utmost protection and regard. It is a union of love, merging two into one. It would be irresponsible to let a wedge drive itself into your relationship out of an inability to see the consequences of your actions. Namely, using Facebook to vent, not establishing clear boundaries with your friends and family, and using pornography.
I thought it was common knowledge but apparently it is not. Facebook is not the place to vent, to make a spectacle of your marriage, or publicly place blame and voice resentment. It is also not necessary to make your marriage and life look perfect through Facebook. The world needs to find a happy medium of what belongs on Facebook. Be cautious as you use Facebook. Many marriages have ended because someone went on Facebook and found their high school boyfriend or girlfriend and decided to leave their family for someone they hadn't talked to in 15 years.
This is why it's important to establish boundaries. First, establish a boundary with your spouse. Decide how open you want your relationship to be and continue discussing and adjusting your boundary where improvements need to be made. As you merge together into one, be diligent in sharing friends, especially of the opposite sex. What you say to these friends will affect how they view your spouse, if you are only saying bad things about them your friends will only know the bad. They won't encourage you to be forgiving.
Last of all, don't let yourself be sucked into the addiction of pornography. It is destructive to yourself and to those around you. While it has commonly thought to be plague only affecting men, women are not immune. It has recently become more and more popular to find it in novels aimed towards teenagers and young adults. If you would feel uncomfortable viewing or reading something with your spouse then throw it out and never go back to it. I would rather error on the side of caution than to find myself in an awkward situation having to explain my motives and what got me where I am. Pornography is not something to be experimented with. It will ruin your mind and destroy your life.
